Sometimes life throws you a curve and you have to make decisions that seem to be right at the time but the long term results can be worse over the long haul as you live with your decision that you made.
Sure it may have been done because you thought it would help yourself and another person but deep inside you were not sure that it would workout.
Then there were times when you felt you didn't have the right to have your say in matters and if you did say something it was degraded or ignored because it was not the other persons idea
Every one needs a freedom to say what they want to say if they feel it is worthwhile and have someone acknowledge that the things that were said had some merit and were worth listening too.
If a person who is continually shut out with what they say and the thoughts are nothing to them then they try to compensate for the lack of attention by getting by by doing thing that interest them but the lack is still there and no amount of quietness and doing their own thing will help change the fact that others think your ideas are not good enough and it will affect your sense of well being.
I think the solution to this problem is to write down how you feel and perhaps find a listening ear who has a caring and understanding heart. We know that God is alive and is well aware of the things that we go through so I am sure that he would help us get out of the sad situation if we would just ask him and let him show us the way.
When a person has to change a big chunk of their lifestyle to make the other person happy then there is no balance. The stress will build up in the mind and spirit and there may be a time that one person either gets very depressed or a fight my erupt. I feel like that may be my situation. There is one thing though, I need to decide whether this is really affecting me or is it just my negative thinking that makes me think it is not making me happy. Is the other person happy and am I happy that he is happy? What I mean is if happiness is there for the other person then I should be filled with joy and peace so that te communication should be natural and flowing.
Now we know that everyone thinks differently and men have a way about them that cannot even relate to the way women think and feel and if they have een shutting down their spiritual growth and just seeking the pleasures and enjoyment in this life the seriousness and ways to mke each other happy may not be programmed into their thinking and feeling. What it basically gets down to is if the person doesn't act, think and feel the way they do then they cannot be related to and it can be upsetting to them if the other person tries to force them to think in a different way.
That means that the person who wants the other person to think differently but cannot get him to will have to except that fact and let the frustration that seems to build up into other creative outlets and actions for your self or to do for others as your abilities dictate.
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